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Movin On Up

2011-04-04T10:41:00.000-07:00

I had to complete the final paperwork and interview with the Bank. That was sad, and something I need to move on from. How to take a job I love and make it one I hate? Take away my incentive and comp time and I'm out the door. Another chapter closed.

So I am home today with a cold- it started Saturday morning and is raging full force. It meant a largely wasted weekend, and that's how this week is looking as well. We leave on Saturday for Boston- can't wait!! Of course, I tried to set up a time to meet with Eddie, the best buddy in my twenties that I was with constantly. He hasn't responded to my last email, but at least he did reply. Since he doesn't put up pictures on Facebook, I am guessing that the years have not been kind. And since he slept with me and his fiance, now his wife, I am guessing she's not so keen on us seeing each other again after twenty years. Whatever, I thought it would be nice to see an old friend and introduce him to my husband and son. I'm not going to try any harder than I already have.

Jay installed a new faucet in the kitchen- when I was really hoping he'd spend a whole day on the Mustang. There is a good chance that I will sell that beast if he doesn't get it running soon- I'll sell it to pay the real estate taxes this year...

I am still fretting about finances and imagine I will be for a while. I have the Sharks playoff tickets to sell, and I am hopeful they will go for some good money. I think I might list them today on Ebay. I also have a bag of things to sell, but since we leave so quickly I guess I will have to wait on those.

Constant Battle

2011-04-02T12:19:00.000-07:00

I have decided that keeping this house in the condition that I would like it is a constant battle- especially with a 10 year son. We just don't have the same standards, and I get tired of fighting about it.

Spencer has started Little League, which is a ginormous time sink as far as I am concerned- but I got a pass from him to miss the game today. He said "I know you don't like baseball, Mom". He did great at his first game- made an awesome catch and got two hits. It was fun to see the delight on both his face and his Dad's.

It's a gloomy day out- and it was gorgeous the two previous days. Everyone is feeling spring fever. I have a lunch scheduled every day next week and then we head off to Boston on Spring Break! We are on a tight budget- $500 for the week- but Monday thru Friday we have breakfast and dinner provided at the Homewood Suites. I'm purchasing our tour tickets ahead of time as well, so the only expense we will have is for the tour at Plymouth rock- I have the Newport Mansion tour and the Duck/St. Charles/Boston tour covered- and of course, meals and gas. We might even be able to bring back a christmas ornament, a t-shirt for Spencer, and a magnet for the fridge- our usual souvenirs!

To Everything, Turn Turn

2011-03-28T12:58:00.000-07:00

Lately I have been struggling with the issue of life, what we learn, and when we die. A blogger that I read just lost her father- and she is full of grief. I look at it and think, he's been around for over 80 years- that is a great life! At least, assuming he lived it like he loved it.

I see so many people plod through life, and they aren't having a good time. I guess I am just far too much of a hedonist, because I believe we should strive to be happy, and to always maintain a positive outlook on things. If you get knocked down by life, spring back up. It's all part of the process.

What I probably find most disillusioning is the realization that no, wisdom does not come with age. When I was younger, I thought that maybe everyone figured things out and then they died. Now I realize it could happen at any time, learning plan be damned. So again, that leads me to try to maximize the enjoyment of each moment, as much as possible.

With all that said, I am trying to transfer our VHS tapes to DVD via the computer, and that is not so much fun. Still, it's a chore I've had on my to-do list for over a year, so there will be some satisfaction in completing it and knowing that I have preserved some crucial childhood memories for my kiddo. Who rocks, by the way. I love being his Mom and being able to spend this extra time with him. He likes me picking him up from school- probably because I am never late.

Simple Pleasures

2011-03-21T16:39:00.000-07:00

I have spent the past few days finally backing up my pictures onto CD's. Or are they DVD's now? I get confused. Anyway, that task is done and now it's on to selling the junk on Ebay and Craigslist- making money and getting rid of unwanted items. I love Spring cleaning!

I also have to work with the Roxio software I bought to transfer our VHS tapes to DVD. I have a whole stack of rewritable discs. I have not had a hard time keeping myself entertained and busy these rainy days. I'm also catching up on old movies in my Netflix queue, and watching far more movies with my son.

Today I made walnut struesel yams and I'm planning to make collard greens and mashed potatoes to go along with the stir fried chicken. I've been having a terrific time cooking with my new vegetables and fruits. I made pistachio pudding with mangoes for dessert. I will have to send that home with Kayla- she's coming over for a few hours to use her new Easy Bake oven tonight.

Cats & Dogs

2011-03-13T09:42:00.000-07:00

Yesterday was a busy day. We got up early and had a garage sale, which was mostly a failure other than getting all the crap out of the house. I sold my Roomba to my neighbor for $50 and told her she could test it for a week. I hope she likes it, since we only cleared about twice that for all four hours. I could barely give stuff away.

Elizabeth and Kayla came over, and we took them to lunch at the Fountain Room, which was a miserable experience, and then over to the Tech museum for an hour. I wanted to make sure Elizabeth got to go at least once with our membership. We had the computer draw pics of the kids- Spencer's looked cool with his hat.

And last night we watched Cats & Dogs- it was funnier than I expected. I laughed quite a bit. I like hanging out at home with my guys- I hate that Jay works nights.

Hibernation

2011-03-09T12:48:00.000-08:00

Staying home and recovering from knee surgery is like hibernating. It's interesting to see who reaches out to me while I'm withdrawn from the world. Women are faced with an interesting choice- I can mold my life around my husband and son, or I can go out in the world of business and have something entirely separate from my family.

I like a nice mix of both, personally. My hope is that with my new business, I can structure a work day that is conducive to making money AND being there for my kiddo.

Adaptation

2011-03-01T09:11:00.001-08:00

So begins my new life, new job, new body. I am once again going to give up cigarettes- and hope this time my weight doesn't go up. Since I'm having to eat gluten free and need to exercise, I might as well full-on embrace health and go for the hot body as I approach 50- why not?

I'm having a hard time sleeping at night- my body is very restless. I think that getting some exercise will help to alleviate that issue. I'm sure part of it is also sheer panic at my debt levels and lack of income- but hard work should fix that part of the equation. I hope!

I've been in a bit of a funk lately and hope to snap out of it soon. We have two kicking vacations ahead of us- Boston and The Atlantis in the Bahamas. I can't wait to share some good times with my guys! And fortunately, I have budgeted for all of it.

Steven Hellman

2011-02-28T10:39:00.000-08:00

Ah, dear Steve. The original heartbreaker in my life. We met while on a semester program at American University in Washington DC. I decided I liked him before he decided he liked me- figures, that's usually how I rolled back then. Eventually, he won my heart over by telling me that he did care for me- I will never forget hearing the sound of Chaka Khan's "I Feel For You" that evening. That night in the club, we finally kissed. And then the trouble started.

Steve didn't want to let anyone know that we were dating, because we had a close knit group of friends. So I had to keep my mouth shut, and we had to do a lot of sneaking around. I am pretty sure it broke my heart because I felt he was ashamed to be dating me. He also wanted me to do more gym time, and so I also felt I wasn't physically good enough for him, either.

But despite my hurt feelings, I loved him. He was a good boy, from a good family and a cautious person. He would be a terrific provider, and he made me laugh. We had a lot of fun hanging out together. He wrote me a huge long love letter when we parted, which I have hung on to until this very day.

And then the relationship sputtered over the long distance, and we saw each other sporadically. I went to visit him at Penn State, and he came to visit me on Spring Break. I went to his college graduation. I knew his family and his best friends. I wanted to marry him.

But Steve would have nothing to do with me except as an old friend. I continued to reach out, making a fool of myself with one of his best friends one night. I drove all the way to DC just to see him again.

Eventually, I gave up. We maintain sporadic contact now. He's 47, and still has never married. We are now Facebook friends, and I see that he has a nice girlfriend. I wish him happiness, and sometimes I wonder what might have been.

Self-Employed

2011-02-08T06:54:00.000-08:00

Ok, I finally took the big step. I resigned from the Bank yesterday, telling them that I wouldn't be returning after my disability ends. I had expected a bit of resistance and reluctance, but no. Once again, never underestimate your unimportance. Ha!

Week Two

2011-01-27T08:52:00.000-08:00

It's been two weeks today since I had my right knee replaced, and it aches constantly. Fortunately, there is medicine for that so I am doing the best I can to rehabilitate quickly. Jay's patience is completely gone and I'm worried about us getting back to being nice to each other. I think Jamaica will be helpful- we definitely need some time away from responsibilities. He's been pushed to his limit having to handle everything and nurse me.

I want to point out, and have, that it will get better soon. I will be taking Spencer to and from school, which means he will get more sleep. I am looking forward to being able to walk again and finally get Cassidy into being a happy dog with daily walks. I've already noticed that I have more time for Spencer. That is so important to me. My Dad is coming to stay with him for our trip. My mother isn't, so that relationship is over as far as I am concerned. I am not even surprised.

We are going to brave my unsteady knee and go to dinner for a friend's birthday on Saturday. It's really soon, but since I have about two and half more weeks before I have to navigate an airport, I figured it would be a good start. Also, these are our friends with the cool yacht and I would love a repeat invitation!

One Month

2011-01-19T12:58:00.000-08:00

So you can tell that I haven't had much enthusiasm for the blog lately, right? One month since I last posted.

I am home with a new right knee. It's painful, but I feel that it's progressing much faster this time. Maybe I am just optimistic since I know that in the end I'll have a good knee. I wasn't sure of that the first time around.

My experience at Kaiser this time was horrible as far as the hospital care goes, so much so that Jay had to spend the night with me to make sure that I could pee in my bedpan. One time they left me with it and disappeared. They didn't replenish the ice in my machine, my compression stockings were mysteriously turned off for several hours, they kept bringing me food with gluten- you get the idea. Worst of all, I was ignored for over 20 minutes when I called for my nurse. And since I had the audacity to complain, I was visited by the chief bitch in charge who told me get over it. I'll get over it my filing a formal grievance on the recommendation of my physical therapist. Ha!

Lots of changes brewing and I can't write about them publicly, but suffice it to say that my life is going in a new direction after I heal and I am very energized by it all. Also, I am learning how to finally budget and live within my means. That will be quite the challenge for me! I'm very hopeful that I will be successful.

Two Month Hiatus

2010-12-19T18:56:00.000-08:00

So, I've been very neglectful and am trying to start a good habit again. Too bad I have so many bad habits!
Change is coming at work, one way or another. I'm excited about trying something different. I always need a new challenge.
We are heading to Vegas for the holidays- finally staying at the Hard Rock. I'm happy to be with my guys in our favorite city. We are so very blessed. It's easy to get caught up and forget that. I'm surrounded by people I love, and really, isn't that the best we can ask for in our lives? I minimize all the negative every chance I get!

Five Years

2010-10-31T17:10:00.001-07:00

Five years ago this month, I started this blog. It has led to new friends, and a partial record of my thoughts and life. Of course, I have been very neglectful of late. Life interferes, and passions wane.

Today we went to Denny's for breakfast- we love eating there for $10 total (!) and even bringing home leftovers for Cassidy. The bad news? I ate biscuits and gravy with hash browns. The good news? It cost $2 and was delicious. So far I am not convinced that breaking with the gluten free diet once a week is a bad thing. We'll see. It would have been nice if my doctor bothered to tell me about my diagnosis.

I had my appendix removed earlier this month due to chronic appendicitis. I also had my knee surgery cancelled- now we are going for June. It was really a trip, especially emotionally.

We've tightened our belts around here after a lot of excess spending- I made a crab and shrimp enchilada casserole to bake later in the week. I need to do more of those things, because a large part of our budget is food. I already get to eat lunch out every day- I need to learn to eat at home!

Sonoma Wineries

2010-09-20T07:19:00.000-07:00

So, before I forget, I wanted to list the wineries we visited this weekend. We had a great time, even though the pool was closed at the Doubletree. Also, it is in the middle of BFE- wine country my ass! We had to drive from Rohnert Park to Sonoma to get to the wineries, so we got to know one stretch of the road really well.

Anaba Winery- ok, easy location
Shug- ok, nothing special
Tin Barn- warehouse- Jay liked their Cab
Roots- meh
Gloria Ferrar- what is it with Champagne cellars? They always make you buy.
Larson Family- great location, good wine- they rent a house out on site

Day 2:
Nicolson Ranch- terrific property with Pepper, the friendly dog who wants to play ball. Amazing views, hands down the best.
Cline Cellars- This is the one I would recommend everyone visit. They offer free pours, and have the most amazing collection of pheasants I've ever seen. They also have all the model missions featured in the World Fair- we thought that was very timely since Spencer has to make a mission this year in 4th grade.
Jacuzzi Winery- I disliked the wine but the pours were free and the shops were terrific.

Weather

2010-09-20T06:18:00.000-07:00

One of the gals who blogs wrote about how our environment is reflected in our temperament, and how she chose to escape the South and go to LA. So I thought about it. Most of my life I grew up in Michigan- it's the state I was born in, and the one that I spent most of my time in as a child. We moved away when I was 9, and back again when I was 16.

Michigan is cold, dreary and dangerous for half of the year. The other half? It's green and growing and beautiful, with tons of mosquitoes who make the outdoors miserable. I am always struck by the industriousness and hope of all the Michigan gardeners, who work so hard to have brief moments of beauty in the spring and summer. I can't be bothered to garden out here, where everything grows pretty much all year long.

California is temperate, cool mornings with warm afternoons and cool evenings. I haven't seen a mosquito in sixteen years. It's grand and breathtaking and wild, with occasional bobcats and coyotes. I so prefer California over Michigan on all levels- but especially the weather. We get excited when it rains, but we can also drive to the snow any time of the year- I think! I finally took my kid to the snow last year and he is begging to go again this year.

Sonoma

2010-09-18T07:17:00.000-07:00

We leave today for Sonoma for a night. I booked a room using our Hilton points- the pool looks fab, and that is a BIG draw for Spencer. The wineries lure me, although I have put myself on a strict $200 budget. Being a grown-up isn't fun.

I finally got the lab results back from all my unpleasant tests and they think it would be smart to have an appendectomy. It's swollen and cancer of the appendix is nothing to mess around with- also, very rare. More rare than the gall bladder cancer that killed my friend Carrie, even.

SO I will have another surgery after I get through this knee business- October 12th is the date I willingly put my body into the care of the medical system. I figure better now than later. It will be amazing to have two good knees- and I will need them for all of our paid for, fabulous vacations ahead!

We have a week in Jamaica, a week in Boston and a week in Atlantis. The bad part is that all my vacation time will be gone for good before the end of May. Still, I can't wait to go, especially back to the Bahamas. That will be my 7th trip in this life- love that place!

Labor Day

2010-09-08T06:40:00.000-07:00

It turned out to be a nesting weekend for me, which was great because I got sooo many things organized in the house. Spencer is a slob, and I am trying very hard to change that careless quality in him. We made a big donation to Goodwill the other day.

I had my Barium swallow and CT scan yesterday. That was not as bad as I expected, but of course my system treated it completely differently than what is usual. I would have kept a 9 year old entertained all day with the sounds! Ugh. Very glad I took a comp day- work would not have gone well.

So now I have a three day week and twenty work days after that before my surgery. I convinced Jay last night to go to Benihana, although we couldn't really afford it. We did walk away with dinner for tonight as well, so that pleased me. Yum! It's my belated Benihana birthday dinner! Too bad I had to pay....

The refinance of the rental property is underway- we hope to transfer virtually all of the expense for the home to it directly. We will still have positive cash flow and will end up with only one debt left that we could pay off if we chose to liquidate stock. I am looking forward to the extra financial freedom. Jay is also talking about going on a 10pm to 10am shift that would work really well with my work schedule- and then I wouldn't feel so bad about having to spend so much time away from my son. It's different when he can stay home with his Dad. He loves to hang out with Elizabeth and Kayla, but I don't like how often I have to use them....I want to be with my son more since he is only little for a little while.

1000 Posts

2010-08-31T07:17:00.000-07:00

My last post hit 1,000. I think I have had this blog for five years now...time flies.

I realized this morning that if Jay and I are going off to Jamaica, we need to change our will. We decided to have someone in California raise Spencer if we died unexpectedly. I guess I'll bring that up now so I don't freak Jay out as we get closer to flying.

I am going to refinance the rental and roll all the expense of the purchase on to it. It makes sense, and still has positive cash flow- and it's appreciated that much. It was a great buy.

Life is still moving at top speed, but of course it will all slow down in six weeks. We have two weekend getaways before then- one to Pine Mountain and one to Napa. I can't wait. I love being away with Spence and Jay so much. Being home together is good too- I just wish we had more of it! Time is a bitch.

Changes

2010-08-29T08:29:00.000-07:00

Well, it's off with the right knee in 45 days. My life has been moving at the speed of light, and I am happy to step off the merry-go-round, for at least a few months. Last night we went over to my friend Kathryn's house and had a fabulous dinner. I just love her home- it has great style and is so cozy.

We won a getaway in Pine Mountain Lake and will be going before my surgery. We are going up with Jay's granddaughter and her Mom- and hopefully Kathryn and David and Zoe and Max. I figured filling the house would be fun and everyone could go hiking while I stayed home, read and cook. Pretty much my favorite stuff to do.

I'm definitely planning on doing some soul-searching while I am out. I want to be more active in my son's life- and his school. I think I've found a solution, and right now we are just concentrating on getting all the finances squared away. We've been pretty diligent about things, and have so much to show for my return to a career. It's been a blast. I would like to write a book about it, in fact.

So we are also going up to Napa for one night the weekend before my surgery. I have some free tour coupons so we will visit those places and maybe Rombauer. That is the wine Kathryn poured last night- yum!

Today we have a Rotary BBQ at Jan Eric's house, which should be fun. We also bought a really cool table from Ervie yesterday and have to stop by to pick it up.

I imagine I will be updating much more once I'm home...

Vacation

2010-08-03T19:53:00.000-07:00

We have our vacation coming, and I couldn't be more thrilled. I love getting away and seeing new sites with my guys. I am looking forward to reading a whole bunch, drinking a bit too much and soaking up some sun. All very well deserved!

I found out that I have celiac's disease. Fortunately, I live in California and they sell virtually everything gluten free if you are willing to pay for it. Many restaurants offer a gluten free menu, and of course my favorite restaurants (Vietnamese and Thai) are fairly safe for the gluten free diet. I already have my gluten free soy sauce so I am good to go. I predict I will be losing weight. Breakfast is more of a challenge for me since I used to eat cereal- and Rice Krispies are better as a treat than a breakfast entree. I found some buckwheat waffles that I toast and spread with jam. Pretty filling and tasty. It feels very strange to part ways with pasta and bread, though- that was pretty much the mainstay of my diet for years.

Moody

2010-07-19T06:21:00.000-07:00

I've been feeling moody lately. Probably the passing of time and dreading my next upcoming knee surgery. It's a two edged sword as I really appreciate the time at home but can't stand the pain. Guess that's why they call it disability.

We had a nice weekend. Spencer spent time with Elizabeth, and we went over to Stewart's party for a few hours. Really done well- catered, tables, Rombauer and a margarita machine. And then we came home, rested a bit and went with Spencer over to Jan and Nicola's and hung out on their front porch. Rotary has been good to us- we've made some good friends that add a lot of joy to our life.

Spencer has really been pushing to get his way on everything. I've tried to be fair but sometimes I just have to put my foot down. My first instinct is to say no, so I've let Jay make the call lately.

And we've heard nothing from my Dad- and Jay's mother is losing it. Drama, drama.

Dad

2010-05-25T06:00:00.000-07:00

So my Dad ended up visiting this past weekend. I think we all had a good time, and we mostly avoided any drama. Spencer really liked hanging with his Grandpa, and cried his eyes out when he left. So I hope that Dad takes the initiative to visit Spencer again.

I ended my Directorship since I started being so concerned. How's that for involvement? I think it's a fine organization, but the fit wasn't right for me. I'm waiting to hear from my mentor. I had a bad day at work yesterday- I hate it when I make mistakes, especially stupid ones.

The good news? I have six bottles of yummy wine coming today. And with luck I can see my friend Kathryn. We leave for vacation soon, so that's a plus! And I am back on the diet to lose that weight again. Small victories.

Momma Day

2010-05-09T09:20:00.000-07:00

So today is Mother's Day, but the weather is not cooperating. The good news about that is that it means Elizabeth and Kayla will be over earlier to enjoy some pie with us...and whatever else. Jay is going to get Thai take-out for me for lunch. Not sure what we will do about dinner, but I imagine it will be yummy.

Last night we went to the Red Cross Heroes Gala and Teresa and I bought a vacation package to a Jamaican Villa in Montego Bay. It has five bedrooms, all with a private bathroom, so we are going to recruit 3 other couples to go along. This means I definitely have to lose weight- and of course, by the time we get there, I will have two full knee replacements. I am still not going zip-lining or rafting. I'll sit by the beach or the pool and drink and read. It will be an interesting experience in group dynamics, for sure. I hope we will all be fast friends at the end of the stay.

Elizabeth and I had a mani/pedi yesterday but I wasn't all that impressed. It was fun to splurge, but I have done enough of that. We bought three pieces of art work at the Triton but I ended up trading one to Elizabeth for the painting. I will be seeing her this week, too- lots of events this month. I think it's about 2 each week.

Anton and Christina seemed to hit it off. Hopefully they will keep seeing each other. They are both very nice. I liked meeting Leonel's wife. I didn't much care for the food, which is a shame since that is the place we are having our dinner at.

Recovery

2010-04-19T06:54:00.000-07:00

So I stayed home really sick on Friday- spent most of the day sleeping. I spent the remainder of the weekend cooking and cleaning and sleeping some more. I started amoxycillin since I had sinusitis- and I am pretty sure I know where that came from- Vegas.

I ended up booking our free Hilton room at Embassy Suites on July 3rd- perfect as long as the wineries are open on the 3rd, and I suspect they will be. We have Denver coming at the end of next month, and then after that we can look forward to wine country- then SoCal in August, and Palm Springs in October. It's really helpful living here in California for such great travel options. I can't complain!

Spencer is enjoying all the shows I have loaded on our TV from Netflix, and I am enjoying him not watching commercials.

Jay is being a sweetheart and really getting the Mustang to running condition- thank God. We need that car running, no joke. It's debt reduction time here around our household.

Ballparks

2010-04-18T07:33:00.000-07:00

Yankee Stadium (old)
Mets (Jay)
Phillies (Shawn)
Oakland A's
Anaheim Angels
San Francisco Giants- Candlestick
Seattle Mariners
Tampa Bay Devil Rays
Miami
Chicago Wrigley Field
San Francisco Giants- PacBell
Los Angeles Dodgers
San Diego Padres

*Denver, Colorado Rockies (this year)

Glee

2010-04-13T20:16:00.000-07:00

Wow I think this is one of those times that I have gone way too long between posts. Glee is on tonight and I am doing my best to stay awake, when what I would really like to do is snuggle under the covers with my little boy. Spencer is rapidly approaching maturity- nine years old and he can feed himself, bathe himself, and keep his room somewhat clean. I now have him fixing his own lunches this week since he is on spring break.

We pulled him out of school early to take Ryan to Vegas to celebrate his 21st birthday. We were going to Palm Springs but instead we switched that to October for our anniversary. It was an expensive trip- one night in the sky suite at Aria and two nights in a Bellagio suite. I loved the macaroons at Aria and the chocolate covered strawberries at Bellagio, complimentary for guests in suites. Limos to and from the airport for Ryan. It was a great trip. We hung out with Peter, my friend from high school and his three boys. Spencer and I went to the Aria pool and the Bellagio pool. The jasmine scent at Bellagio was amazing.

We had one of those special moments together- a moment I can turn to whenever I am told to think happy thoughts. We had lunch front and center on the patio at Olives and watched three water shows while we enjoyed our delicious food and a cocktail. The sun was shining and the spray from the fountains was sometimes blown towards us by the wind- Jay and I held hands and we all made eye contact and smiled. Priceless memories.

We ate at Sage, a new restaurant at Aria. I wasn't all that impressed, but I was happy to enjoy my Ggrich chardonnay and the company. We both lost at our gambling limits which pretty much sucked but we are fine. I need to do some budgeting, which always annoys me but life is good.

Spencer loved Cirque de Soleil's O. I decided that if you have seen one show, you have probably seen them all. I enjoyed the sculptor Richard McDonald.

Spencer has decided that he will write letters to celebrities to get their autographs.

Easter Brunch

2010-03-21T18:30:00.000-07:00

So today we started a new tradition- Easter Brunch. We had 8 total- Rosalie and her granddaughter Ally, Spencer and Kayla, Elizabeth, Jean and Jay and myself. It was a beautiful day and we were in the big room at the Adobe Lodge, which was just lovely. There were craft activities for the kids, and coloring, so they were happy. The brunch was fabulous- quiche and bacon, eggs, potatoes, fresh fruit, juice, coffee and pastries.
Elizabeth and I took Kayla to see the Easter Bunny and get a few photos- and then after brunch, there was the egg hunt. Each child got ten eggs filled with candy and small toys. It was a great event, and one we all agreed we would return to next year.

The whiskey dinner is done, and much money was raised for polio. Pretty much everyone agreed they disliked the scotch- poor Jan! No taste of heaven for us, that is sure. I don't like the slow burn down my throat. Give me bourbon every time.

Busy Bee

2010-03-19T06:54:00.000-07:00

So it's finally Friday, and I am looking forward to another day of sun and a great lunch at The Grill- and then I am off for the afternoon. Tonight we are having dinner at Friday's- where else? and then going to an art opening at the Triton.

Tomorrow afternoon is the BLSA reunion at Fiorello's, where I will be speaking about Ericka. I believe Jeanette has a slide show Stacy sent- that made me tear up. She is gone too soon, no doubt.

That night is the Whiskey/Wine dinner for Rotary- I'll be sure to enjoy a few drinks in her honor- but not too many, because the following day is the Easter Brunch at Santa Clara University. I've arranged for us to go horse back riding in Scotts Valley at Easter, which will be nice. We can see if Spencer has the horse gene in him.

Daylight Savings

2010-03-10T06:32:00.000-08:00

I guess I have been on my own personal daylight savings plan because I have been consistently waking at 4AM, dozing and then officially up by 5 AM. That should be terrific for the time change!

Things are moving very quickly, but falling into place. I've really been out there networking, and I am getting the referrals to prove it. Next week I have events five out of the seven nights- so faster than I would really like to go. I actually cancelled one, but can't seem to avoid all the others.

I have all the Easter baskets done and now I am just counting down to Vegas. I have two more days off next month- can't wait. Spencer wants to see the chalk drawings so I am thinking we should go down to Santa Barbara for Memorial Day.

Enjoyed the Oscars. I love Sandra Bullock and I am so happy that she won an Oscar. She's always been the celebrity I would most like to party with.

Marching On

2010-03-01T20:33:00.001-08:00

I can't believe it's March already. Of course, the fact that I was out the entire month of January might have something to do with that. Things seem to be happening, and I am moving at full speed. I'm looking forward to this weekend, when I only have to deal with the house cleaning service, Spencer's ice skating and a party at the Tech Museum, hopefully with our friends we are supposed to be having dinner with.

I went BIG for our Vegas vacation and booked a penthouse at the Bellagio. It's cheaper now than it is in October, and the idea is that Ryan will be there for his 21st. Jay is going to buy tickets to AC/DC, if we can get some. They are hugely expensive.

I've been amusing myself with watching the Kardashians and waiting for Kendra's new show to start. I guess I could be a reality junkie. It's definitely easier on my knees. I can tell it's going to rain tomorrow, damn it.

Hawaii

2010-02-24T18:38:00.001-08:00

We had a great time in Hawaii. The weather was perfect, the resort was fabulous and we did so much. Thank god I had enough money to pay for everything and cover our taxes this year- and a few extras here and there.

I also have two months to save some money for our Palm Springs vacation, although I am thinking of changing it to Vegas in April and Palm Springs in November. We will have enough Hilton points for a free stay in Napa, and of course I have our August SoCal vacation to save for as well. Thank god I have a good job- now I just have to keep it~ my plan for debt reduction this year is over 50,000, so it is a very significant year. The sooner I can get our debts paid off the sooner I have flexibility in life! It's kind of strange to think that being a business development officer is the highest and best use of my talents.

Spencer swam with the dolphins. We are waiting to receive the video and the fabulous Koa wood box with a handmade dolphin tile I bought and shipped. We sat in the front row at the Luau, and ate a fabulous dinner at Roy's. We toured the entire island. Jay and I went to a seahorse farm and I held a seahorse. We had a couple samplers at the Kona Brewing Company, and visited Hulihee Palace. Hulihee Palace is the house I wish I had in that location. Amazing, and one of the only two palaces in the United States. We will see that when we go to Oahu and tour the other one- and of course I have to tour Doris Duke's home.

Work is so very very busy but rewarding. I like people, and I get to deal with a variety every day. Kathryn came by and it was great to see her.

T minus 4

2010-02-10T06:11:00.000-08:00

So we leave for Kona on Sunday, but we have a full plate until then. Friday night is the Blue and Gold dinner, and after we are pouring our good wines for some friends- one of them has a son Spencer's age so he will be happy!

Saturday is Spencer's ice skating lesson and lunch at Benihana- yum! Jay doesn't think we will ever get sick of eating there. Saturday night we leave at 4:30 via bus to take us to a cruise on the East Bay with dinner and dancing.

Finally, we get up at 4 to be at the airport at 4:30 AM for our 6 AM flight to LAX. We have a hour or so there so we can grab breakfast somewhere, and we arrive in Hawaii at noon! Monday we plan to see the volcano, and Tuesday Spencer swims with the dolphins. Wednesday, Thursday and Friday he is going to Kidscamp, and we are just chilling or sightseeing nearby. We also have all day Saturday to sightsee together. I'm told we will see lots of turtles, and I want to see a black sand beach in person.

Super Bowl

2010-02-07T18:25:00.000-08:00

So for some reason this year, we didn't hear from Paul. Fortunately, we had our HDTV so it wasn't all bad. Spencer fell off his bike and took a bad scrape on his elbows.
Elizabeth and I went to the Being Spa today and both had a facial. It didn't feel all that relaxing at times! Still, it was very nice and we had a buffet breakfast at the hotel first. I told Elizabeth it was her mother's day present- I gave her my pass so she can bring her friend Danielle there to use the sauna and jacuzzi and have a pampering day, without the expense. She is good with coupons, so I think she will use it.
I took advantage of the Sunday paper again and got a free Tombstone Supreme Pizza, Lil Smokies, Fritos and a pound of potato salad free. That was worth $12, and I had a $5 off coupon. With the other card bargains, I save 45%. That's one of my better deals!
One more week at work and we are off to Kona. I've set aside a thousand for spending money- and set aside the kennel and dolphin expense. I think we will be able to have a good trip within budget. The first day there we are going to the volcano- can't wait!

Payphrase

2010-02-06T08:37:00.000-08:00

Is it just me, or is anyone else creeped out by Amazon's new phrases for the Payphrase? They always make me sound like a horrible person. Today it was crimson fingertips. It's a turn off.

Yay for surviving my first week back to work. My knee is swollen so I am icing and laying about this weekend, eating bonbons and reading my Kindle.

Maggie May

2010-02-01T20:10:00.000-08:00

How old was she, anyway? Sounds like an original cougar. And how old was he? I can't understand these women dating younger men. I like to look at a handsome man, just like most people. But wisdom really does come with age. Of course, I wouldn't want anyone except my husband to see me naked, anyway! Maybe if I was as hot as Demi Moore I'd be chasing some young stud. Doubtful. The morning sun- when it's in my face, it really shows my age.

Feels awesome to be back at work. Tired, but happy. My Jaguar is on the fritz and I hope it's not too expensive.

Bakery

2010-01-27T13:07:00.000-08:00

So today I made cinnamon rolls from a can for breakfast (the ones with the orange icing- much loved by all) and blueberry muffins for tomorrow or for an afternoon snack- and brownies for his Cub Scout troop tomorrow night. Tomorrow I need to make a chocolate cake and the spaghetti casserole for our dinner Friday night. I got a babysitter for Saturday night, and Sunday will be Benihana and ice skating. Spencer and I decided that will be his last birthday party- skating and lunch after at Benihana- I need to look at the children's menus to see if the prices are lower at lunch. They definitely are for the adults!

I have remained a spending fool and ordered a new corner bookshelf for the dining room and a Spiderman rug for Spencer's room. That is a surprise for him- I am going to call it a Valentine's Day present. I got Jay an awesome box of Belgian chocolates and Cassidy ate them all. I was very depressed about that.

The door man is coming over later today and then we will have that home improvement project underway. Looks like the front porch bricks are falling, so it appears Jay will have to tear all that area up out front. Never a dull moment.

Crazy Man

2010-01-26T17:52:00.001-08:00

Today Elizabeth and I met for lunch at Crazy Man chinese- it was yummy as usual and nice to spend time with her before I go back to work. Tomorrow I have to take Cassidy in for a grooming session. She ate 12 pieces of Belgian chocolate but based on her size I think she will be fine. Jay lost his $25 fresh Belgian chocolates for Valentine's Day. He hated them anyway because he almost cracked a tooth on the pit in the chocolate covered cherry. I pointed out to him that he couldn't sue for that. I did learn a couple of things in law school after all.

Friday night we are having Tracey and her husband over for dinner. My first day back to work, but I plan to make a spaghetti casserole the night before, as well as chocolate cake and the salad. Then I only have to worry about sauteeing the green beans and toasting the garlic bread. I am having shrimp cocktails and cheese and crackers, maybe some apples. I am making a salad with fresh greens and cucumber, then the spaghetti casserole and garlic toast. Chcolate cake and cabernet to finish, zinfindel with the pasta and a chardonnay for the shrimp.

Beverly Hills Chihuahua

2010-01-26T06:30:00.000-08:00

So I finally hooked up the Blu Ray to Netflix, so we can stream instant movies to our new tv. Spencer is watching Beverly Hills Chihuahua this morning, and watched Midway last night. I tired of Midway and finished reading another book about Marjorie Merriweather Post- Heiress. She was very rich but mostly dull- definitely not a drinker. I think I like Barbara Hutton better- or maybe Doris Duke. I'm still reading and deciding. I have a movie coming on Doris and another book on Barbara.

I'm hopeful that the airplane trip to the Big Island will convince Jay that he isn't claustrophobic in a plane after all and we can book a trip to New York this Thanksgiving. I found a hotel that guarantees a parade view room for less than $400 a night.

I am having lunch today with Elizabeth and then going to the mall to do some returns. I also have a box of Godivas to pick up and a gift card to spend at Bath & Body Works. I wasted $18 on a product so I am a little annoyed with myself.

I just bought a new Mission style corner bookcase for either the dining room or the den. I think it will match better in the den. Maybe if I have the bike in here I can get in the habit of watching tv and cycling. That is my goal for 2010- to develop a habit of riding the bike in the morning for 1/2 hour for health- that and to quit smoking yet again, of course. I have another resolution I will keep to myself but it's movement in the right direction. Every day we are given another chance to be a better person. I'm not sure watching BHC is a good start...

Ericka Died

2010-01-18T07:36:00.000-08:00

in the earthquake. What random element led her to that place and at that time. I was mistaken, her baby is less than 3 years old, so she will just have the memory of her mother at her core- not easily accessed in memory banks in later years.

It's raining here and I slowly start back to work- 8-1pm at a board retreat tomorrow and a meeting at 10am on Wednesday. Doctor's appointment is next Thursday, so next Friday will be my first day back to work, or maybe next Monday if they are able to move my appointment.

My Friend Ericka

2010-01-17T15:43:00.000-08:00

Ericka and I met in law school while both working in the admissions office. I believe that we had at least one class together, because I vaguely remember Ericka eating sugared plums from Japan in class.

She was smart, funny and went to Smith on a full scholarship. One day she told me that at one point in her life she had been homeless in LA, living in a car with her mom and siblings...or not, I can't recall. We bonded over room service and travel and even went to San Francisco together to spend the night and see MOMA. She was one of my more cultured friends, and she made me laugh.

I taught her how to drive. She didn't need to in New York or Boston, and finally had to learn here in California. She didn't like the community here, and moved away. She took a job at the United Nations in Kosovo, wrote a Constitution and met her husband- also a UN employee, formerly from a small country in Africa.

She was stationed in Haiti, in the collapsed United Nations building and has not been seen since the earthquake.

Happy New Year

2010-01-17T10:21:00.000-08:00

Wow, didn't realize I had been on hiatus that long. I think my enthusiasm for this blog has waned, as all things seem to eventually do. Everything on the internet is so easily found these days, and I prefer a bit more privacy- but pervously, I like having readers who don't know me in real life, as well.

So- Spencer loves snow- specifically, skating and sledding. He showed a fair talent for skating. He has to finish his Pinewood Derby car with Dad but then maybe he could even go skate today- and Mom and Dad could have a late lunch at Benihana! Score!

We went to the King Tut exhibit- kind of cool to see objects made so long ago. We also went to the De Young and Legion of Honor. Loved the tower at the De Young.

Yesterday we went to the Hiller Aviation museum. Spencer loved it- he got to fly on a flight simulator computer and the gift shop yielded a new winter coat for him that he loves. It's nice to see the joy on his face. Jay took him and Jean to see Robinson Crusoe, and I stayed home and finally finished The Outlander series. What a tedious tale that turned out to be in the end. She should have just stayed with the original trilogy idea. I'm pretty sure I would be in love with Ian Murray.

Disappearing Act

2009-12-29T08:41:00.000-08:00

Wow, I can't believe it's been over two weeks since I posted! YES, the holidays were hectic, thank you for asking! Spencer was spoiled rotten, as I planned, and it was nice. Jay bought me a diamond ring and a pajamagram- very sweet.

Blue Man Group rocked and I understand now why they have been around for a bazillion years. I highly recommend seeing them.

My knee continues to get very hot, so I have been icing and elevating. I'm hoping that eventually that goes away in a month- because that is when I go back to work...

Spencer and I are having lunch at Sino today with Ervie and doing our gift exchange. I'm looking forward to visiting with her- this recovery has been a lonely time for sure.

Kayla Girl

2009-12-10T08:21:00.000-08:00

Alex finally brought Kayla over to see us- it had been six months. He just said that he had been really busy at work- yeah, right. Obviously we offended him in some way by suggessting that he rent our house and live there for free. Go figure. I thought we were offering him something good, and he responded by never lifting a finger to help his father rehab the place.

Which is why I am not giving him a Christmas present, because he doesn't exactly bring me warm fuzzies. I gave those boys so much of my money, time and love and it all fell on indifferent shoulders.

Kayla was a doll as usual. I gave her a pink sparly purse and she proceeded to start to fill it with the contents of my purse. Too cute for words! She stood on the Barbie portable doll house I bought her and ripped the top off Barbie. She was a little afraid of taking a candy cane off the Christmas tree but warmed right up to that idea after a while. I saved half her gifts since her Mom is bringing her over on Saturday. I still have Barbie dress up shoes, ballerina Barbie and some Mickey Mouse studs for her.

Benihana

2009-12-03T11:32:00.001-08:00

Tonight we are going to Benihana to celebrate Jay's birthday and get his $30 off his meal- yay! It will be fun and nice to give Spencer the free photo that comes with dinner.

I have finished helping Josh with his school work. It was a nice change of pace for me, and I probably learned something.

Got the one night booked at Squaw Creek- wish we could afford to stay longer! Also I had to scramble to find a place for Cassidy to stay while we go to Las Vegas- thankfully I knew one of my customers had a wife who just opened! Yay! Saved!

Spencer and I cuddled together in my room last night and watched Rudolph. It was a beautiful night and hopefully a memory my son will have the rest of his life. It's wonderful how timeless that story really is.

Spoiled

2009-12-03T00:11:00.000-08:00

So I got more money than I had planned on for my disability, and promptly turned around and spent it on tickets and dinner for the Blue Man Group. $405 bucks for the evening, but it's Christmas Eve and sounds really special to us. Spencer is very excited.

And yes, I have been a spendy consumer these days. Unfortunately, my money has run out, so I am done with the shopping. I want to have some gambling money, so that is the end of that fun! I did manage to upgrade our tv in the den to HDTV and put a 32" HDTV in the bedroom, along with a Blu Ray. And a Roomba is winging its way to our home, hopefully to keep it even cleaner than usual, with less effort on our parts.

Spencer is begging to see snow, and I have almost enough points in my United account to hopefully make it happen for him in January. We can cash them in for one spendy night at Squaw Creek, so we are going. They have an outdoor kids activity program, just like the Keikei club in Kauai, and the one we are taking him to on the Big Island in February. It's starting to be what I look for when making a reservation! Well worth the extra $100 a day or whatever they charge- I promised Jay we could go to the casino, so he was game.

I'm anxious to see how far my knee has progressed when I go in this Friday. I am surprised that they never called me out about playing hooky last week. Once I know what they are measuring my flexion at, I will decide about mailing back the machine. I want to hang on to it and I am afraid to let it go- but I hate spending the extra $250 a month.

Daddy-O Thanksgiving

2009-11-24T18:06:00.000-08:00

Dinner:

Turkey
Mashed potatoes (instant, even though we do have real ones)
Stove Top Stuffing
Green Bean Casserole
Corn
Browned oven rolls
Brown gravy
Cranberry Raspberry jello

Appetizers:
Crab & Cream cheese dip
Pepperidge Farm butterfly crackers
Deviled Eggs
Green Grapes

Desserts:
Marzipan cake (a friend brought over an amazingly beautiful cake and we froze half of it)
Vanilla pudding pie in graham cracker crust with cherries

Breakfast:

Easy Cheese Souffle & Sausage
Fruit Cocktail

Sweet snacks:
Oatmeal Raisin cookies
Peanut Butter cookies

Presents-so far

2009-11-22T10:45:00.000-08:00

Spencer: Nintendo Wii and Mario Cart, 3 additional Wii games ($340)
Lego City Coast Guard Helicopter & Station (Might save for half-birthday)$60 REDEEM
Pixar Movie Shorts DVD ($20)
Bug Kit & Book ($10)
Calculator ($10) REDEEM
Pajamas and Robe ($30)
Sharks hat & ticket to game ($90)
Book on Sharks ($10)
Light Up Grinch ornament ($10)
NASCAR beach towel ($10)
Lego Tow Truck ($10)
Lincoln Penny Set ($10)
6 Childhood Heroes Books ($30)
Blue Angel plane model ($15) Counting as popcorn prize!
2 39 Steps Books ($20)
Air & Space Magazine ($10)
Personalized Calendar (Adorable!)($5)
BMX 21" Bike (he's outgrown the Schwinn I bought- this is a Trax bike)($125)
Encyclopedia Brown book ($5)
Gap watch ($10)
Pajamas from Gap ($10)

So a total of $700- yikes! It sure does add up quickly! That doesn't include his stocking, which has a tribal necklace from the Rainforest Cafe, 3 bags of Disney miniatures, two Hot Wheels and some peppermint shapeable soap- along with a name key chain!

Facebook

2009-11-19T20:03:00.000-08:00

So I have pretty much ditched forums and this blog for Facebook. I like Facebook for so many different reasons- it's online, it's an opportunity to reconnect and a way to make new friends as well. I continue to add friends weekly, and I am over 300 now. I read that one trendy company wouldn't even look at a business development person if they didn't have 500 friends on FB- can't remember what company, but since I am business development I also consider it part of my job.

I've found a number of things entertaining on FB. I play Mafia Wars and Farmville and a really stupid game called Enchanted Island. Not sure why I keep going back to that one, but I think it has something to do with Pavlov.

I have become close to another mother at my son's school, and his principal, who is the sweetest man, and also in the closet (understandably, as a principal at an elementary school). You know he is though when he gets 100% on the musical and Wizard of Oz quizzes, haha. I've received donations for some of the non-profits I support from friends, and had a fabulous time updating my status with movie quotes. I've kind of moved away from continual status updates at this point, though.

I also had a friend use it against me, since I did something that she disagreed with business-wise- I moved my referral group from her CPA firm to another one when the accountant from her firm left. The other CPA firm offered us a partner, and validated parking- big pluses in our town- and they were also just across the street from the Bank. She wanted to send a junior associate from an hour north as a replacement. I said no, but apparently I wasn't gracious enough- or tacky, as she put it. Despite the fact that we had been friends for three years, having dinner with our husbands, going shopping and talking about a trip together to Mexico- despite the fact that she said she understood my business reasons for moving the group, she decided to restrict my access to her on FB to show her disapproval. So I emailed her about it, and when she didn't restore my access, I deleted the bitch. She did all of this about a week before my knee replacement surgery- other friends were sending cards, flowers, chocolate covered strawberries, a Kindle, bringing over meals, and she didn't even wish me luck. It taught me again that until you go through a crisis with someone, you can't really know if the friendship is solid.

Well, I went off on a little tangent there. I guess you can tell it still bothers me, because I didn't even realize I would offend her- but since I have, I'll just go ahead and say that her firm sucks anyway and is falling apart. Haha.

Anyway, today I got a shout out from an author that I absolutely adore, and it made my night. What a cool thing this social media can be!

AWOL

2009-11-18T11:07:00.000-08:00

It's funny, because you would think that with all the time on my hands, I would at least regularly update my blog, but I haven't been in the mood. This surgery really kicked my ass, mentally and physically.

My routine has consisted of sleeping, exercising (laying on the bed exercises), facebooking and farming in Farmville and reading like mad on my new Kindle. It's been pretty boring. I did finally break down and bought a small HDTV flat screen for the bedroom and I am going to have the satellite hooked up as well. I think Jay will enjoy having that- we might be more likely to watch something together. Of course, for $150 more I could have gotten a huge 32 inch tv on sale- but I wanted to start small and see how we like it. I am also catching up on all the past Girls Next Door episodes. High brow, that's me!

There hasn't been a lot of together time with the family since I have been stuck here in the bedroom. My flexion is past 90 degrees, so just another 30 degrees of pain to go. I start PT at the hospital on Friday.

Not much else going on. Just a daily grind to recover and get back into the swing of things!

Adulthood

2009-11-08T18:49:00.000-08:00

New Jersey-

1985- 1994

Ewing
South Trenton
Trenton
Bank Street
Nassau Street
Chambersburg

1994-2009

Santa Clara Apartment
Santa Clara House

Always Moving- 20 by 20

2009-11-08T18:42:00.000-08:00

Apartment in Battle Creek
House in Albion (My Grandmother's)
House in Battle Creek
Apartment in Bloomington
House in Towanda
House in Missouri
House in Indiana (Ranch)
House in Indiana (Tudor)
Apartment in Michigan
House in Marshall
House in Marshall (Fancy)
Farm in Marshall
Wyoming
Dorm in Albion
Dorm in DC
Grandmother's House
Aunt's House
On my own in Green House
With Steen & Lars
With Karen

The Time of the Dark

2009-11-06T20:32:00.000-08:00

So I am one week and one day post left knee replacement and I have to say that it has been sheer misery, alleviated occasionally by the fact that I am here with my loving husband and son taking care of me. It's far more painful than I ever anticipated, even with Dilaudid and Percocet. I have muscles that are aching that I never knew I had. The scar is totally like something out of Frankenstein, so I cover it to avoid looking at it, complete with staples. I am supposed to get them out next week and then will be allowed to shower, finally. This sponge bathing is for the birds.

I have been given so much by my friends that it has completely warmed my heart and surprised the crap out of me! My referral group got together and bought me a Kindle and a $60 Amazon gift card. Ken and Dana sent me a box of chocolate strawberries. Teresa took a bunch of us out to Sino and gave me a gorgeous tropical arrangement that just died- it lasted two weeks and looked like something in a hotel lobby. Gary and Betsy sent me a beautiful floral arrangement as well, and Jay and Spencer got me an awesome Halloween bouquet. Needless to say, I feel very loved and spoiled. I had to send Jay out to buy some thank you cards because I didn't have enough...Bill and Carleen sent me a hilarious card as well.

So every day I see slight improvement and I take hope from that. I can see that this is a long road to recovery for sure. At this point, I am pretty vehement about never doing this again, so we will see how long that lasts. It is sheer misery, there is no question about that.

The Big Day

2009-10-28T01:52:00.000-07:00

So I have one more day before the surgery, and then the real fun begins. I'm going in with the best attitude I can have- I've spent the last few days getting everything as organized as I can- including finishing my Christmas shopping. I have a plan to get us out of debt, and that should be done by next year at this point! The roof and the new windows for this house should be done then as well, which will be a relief.

We are going to see "Where the Wild Things Are" and have dinner at Fridays tonight- Jay and I are taking three of the gold coins in to have them rated. We will sell off all but one to finance the roof at Kenilworth- and give me the seed money for the windows. Unfortunately, we haven't had anyone for the house that has applied and been a potential good tenant- so please cross your fingers for me that we get it rented soon. It's a drain on the budget that I can no longer afford!

I didn't write Spencer a letter in the event of my death because I didn't want to be dramatic. Jay has the password to this site, so he can print off all the entries for Spencer through the years. I cling to each day with Spence because I know that all too soon he will be grown and gone- which means I did my job well- but I cherish these days so much. He is an absolute delight and such a good kid. I am very blessed.

Star Trek

2009-10-24T13:13:00.000-07:00

So today we got up early and went to the Star Trek exhibition. Too much reading and too little substance. It was cool to see some of the original stuff, and the photos that they took of us turned out really well, so we were pleased with that. One of them is in the Next Generation transporter booth, and they treated it so we fade in and out. $39 for the photos and stand. Nice price upgrade!

I am having Cassidy groomed right now. She was miserably bad in the store, and the dog trainer pretty much followed me around and made me feel bad. I told him that we couldn't afford to have someone walk her, and that training would happen, but not now because of my medical condition. In the end, I told him I felt very pressured and uncomfortable. I don't need to apologize for my dog, she is what she is.

Spencer is going to a Halloween party, and Jay is showing the house. I am hoping that we will get a tenant this weekend, so we can get something going by November. This has dragged on far too long, and is really a strain on my budget. I will be glad to get everything paid for and situated- because in the end, we also have to put a new roof on that house and have this house treated for termites and have new windows here. Whew.

No plans for tomorrow, other than cleaning the front and back yards up. That's mostly Jay's job, thank goodness. I want to get to Goodwill with another donation, and plan to be home cooking all this week. I have good supplies in the pantry and we should be fine for a while. It's time to be in a non-spending mode! We've really been splurging- the Tech tickets and membership was $120. I just spent $120 buying stuff for Cassidy, and her grooming is $40- and $70 for the house cleaning service today. It just flies right out the window as soon as I get it in!

Wicked & Steely Dan

2009-10-21T22:34:00.000-07:00

So I went to see Wicked on Saturday with my bff Kathryn and we had an awesome time. We had dim sum at Yank Singh in San Francisco and then really enjoyed Wicked. There are so many awesome lines in that musical! And I just loved the characters! I plan to go again and take Spencer and Jay.

And tonight we went to Steely Dan- I won free tickets and it was at the Civic Auditorium which I had never been to before either. I had two double rum & diet cokes and was hit on by a handsome man while in line. Out of the blue, I told him I was getting a knee replacement in a week which led to some lewd comments. Ha!

Tomorrow is my last day of work for three months. That will be strange for me, but I am going to do my best to avoid work as much as possible and concentrate on my family.

Tomorrow night I am going to have dinner at Sino with T and K, which will be tons of fun. I am very blessed by great people in my life! I ran into Judy at the concert, how cool is that? Kathryn calls it kismet.

Columbus Day

2009-10-12T18:40:00.000-07:00

Today was Columbus Day, and the Tech was open, so I kept Spencer home from school. We went to Target and I bought some supplies, and went to the Tech in the afternoon. We saw the Mummies show and Forces of Nature on Imax. Both were interesting, the Mummies more so. I joined the museum and bought tickets for us to return to see the Star Trek exhibit. I need to see if they are having a Trek convention at the same time. How much fun would that be? All except for the walking of course.

Which is why I am happy that I have made the decision to try to do something about my knees and walk again. I can't imagine what it will be like to move without pain. I know that is at least a year off, but a girl can dream!

Speaking of dreams, I went on a friend's yacht yesterday with some of his family. Spencer didn't like the waves much, but I had a blast. I realy like the family, and it's a very nice boat. I would love to have one, without all the expense that goes along with it~!

Frenemies

2009-09-29T07:08:00.000-07:00

I found an old friend online again- Joy Blake. She was my online friend while I stayed home with my son. She was adorable and mischievous and caused all sorts of emotional breakdowns in the world of Delphi. In short, almost everyone found her irresistible.

But we constantly threw each other under the bus for various scandals online and we eventually drifted, as frenemies do. I saw here again on FB, and asked her to friend me. Then I thought about all the drama, and removed my request this morning. I don't have the energy or stamina to have a do-over on Facebook. It's become a professional tool for me as well as a way to recreate.

Speaking of recreate, I once again put down the pack of smokes. That will have me 30 days nicotine free for the operation, which brings me practically back to normal.

Places I've Lived

2009-09-26T10:31:00.001-07:00

Michigan- Battle Creek apartment, Albion home and Battle Creek home until 9
Illinois- Towanda, until I was 12
Missouri- Columbia, until I was 15. Weekends on a sailboat in the Ozarks during the summer
Indiana- Lafayette, until I was 16
Marshall, Michigan and Homer, Michigan for a summer while we bought our house. I lived in Michigan until I was 23- with my grandmother, my aunt and my parents when we got along.
Flagg Ranch, Wyoming- the summer I was 19. I hope Spencer goes away to work in the National Parks for the summer like I did- it was an awesome experience.
Washington DC- the fall of my senior year in 1984. Amazing time. Again, I hope my son spends a semester away from his college.
Trenton, New Jersey and Princeton, New Jersey- from one week after I graduated from Albion College (1985) to 1994. Love the Jersey shore and the Italian food. My son is fond of my cooking, and he will always think either Italian or Asian, thanks to NJ and CA-
Santa Clara, CA, from 1994 to present- 15 years! As you can see, I finally settled down.

I often tell people that I moved 18 times by the time I was 18, and they were astounded. It gave me certain social skills- I am not afraid to meet new people, and I am not afraid to be alone in front of a crowd. Still, it was a very hard childhood in many ways and I am hoping that my son will appreciate the fact that we choose to stay put. As long time readers know, I contemplated uprooting us but never did.

Thursday

2009-09-24T06:03:00.000-07:00

So it's Thursday and I have to be at a customer's at 8:30- unfortunately I left the papers I wanted to drop off at the Bank, so I need to get in there and then backtrack. Arhg.

Spencer looks so adorable sleeping with his poor arm in a cast. I love seeing him sleep. He's growing so tall and is just adorable. I like him and who he is becoming. I definitely plan to stay home starting with sixth grade, so we need to get all the finances squared away. I want to be there to take him to school and pick him up. I refuse to have a latch key child. No good can come from that, and we can learn to make do with less.

Number 9

2009-09-21T14:35:00.000-07:00

So Jay didn't realize that today was just an in-service day at school- he thought it was also a bank holiday. Which meant that he never gave me the form to sign Spencer up for daycare- so I did end up with today as a holiday after all. We wanted to go to a zoo or a museum- the Tech- closed. Happy Hollow- closed. Palo Alto Jr Zoo- closed. Ainsley House- closed. Museum of American History- closed. So instead we went to see 9, which was rather strange but I think Spencer liked it.

We started with a visit to JC Penney's, where I got six pairs of socks and a soccer jersey for less than $10, thanks to a $10 coupon. Then we went to Panera bread and had lunch for $6- thanks to a $10 gift card. We spent about $24 at the movies- popcorn, soda and twizzlers and a hot dog for Spencer.

So I am still struggling with the thought of the surgery and the recovery, and all the preparations that I need to get going on. I definitely want to see Where The Wild Things Are with Spencer before I go in. My life will have to go on hold for a while as I recover. Kind of hard to wrap my mind around it.

My new plan is to be home for Spencer in middle school- so about 3 more years of work to get debt paid off so we can manage that financially. It will take about that long, too!

Hot BBQ

2009-09-19T12:51:00.000-07:00

So tonight we are entertaining- Bill and Carleen for sure, and maybe Jan Eric and Nicola and Girard and Betsy. I need to call Jean and invite her over to catch up.

I have already set the table- we are dining al fresco. For appetizers I made crab rangoon coustades with bacon, shrimp cocktail, pepper jack cheese and multi-seed crackers and chilled edamame. For the main course, we have hot dogs for the kids, and hot links and ribs for the adults. I am baking two racks of baby back, and have a salad with chopped apples, sunflower seeds and mandarin oranges. i made a dressing with oil, cider vinegar, salt, pepper, dry mustard and garlic powder.

I am also baking onion rings (Friday's brand) and made biscuits and baked beans. I have a pan of baby peppers, squash and carrots and will be roasting that in the oven.

For dessert I have pecan brownies, vanilla ice cream and banana cream pie.

I have three bottles of peach champagne, a syrah and a shiraz, a pinot blanc and a sauvignon blanc. I also have an after dinner liquer and port.

I think we are set. But I'm not sure my legs will make it through the day. Most of the house is clean- I need a more concentrated effort on the bathroom and dusting in the living room, mopping in the kitchen. Other than that, it's all good. Since no one will arrive until 7pm (trying to beat the heat), I have about six hours left to nap and give myself a mani/pedi.

Monday Night

2009-09-14T21:45:00.000-07:00

And I guess that football is back from the comments on Facebook. I read a mystery novel this evening and hung out with my son. He's growing so tall. I'm so proud of him and the good person that he is becoming. He's very kind and giving, although a bit greedy. That's a hard thing to overcome at an early age- I think we all want as much as we can get, most of us our whole lives. It's a difficult task to learn to be content with what one has, and definitely not part of the American dream.

Still fretting about the knee surgery. I've prepared as best I could for the worst- got the legal issues settled and gave Jay all my passwords. I intend to write a post to Spencer soon and I'll probably put it here but print it out. A final message if I go, if you will.

Reality tells me I will survive, only wishing the next day that I did die, thanks to the pain. At least that is the scenario that my overly dramatic mind plays out. So I am 45 days away, and trying to live like it is my last 45 days, but within the constraints of a job and social obligations. No jetting off to the Caribbean, which is totally what I want to do! Maybe I should encourage my friend to take off in October with me! Hmmmmm....two night stay in a tropical paradise. Yes!!

Gala event

2009-09-12T17:41:00.001-07:00

So I am waiting for Jay to finish dressing. We are going to another fund-raising dinner. We went to one last night as well. I like the getting dressed up part a bit and the food is sometimes good. Unfortunately, I can't drink as much as I would like!

Spencer and Jay went on a tour of military tanks this morning and both really enjoyed it. I rearranged some furniture, did the laundry and dishes and watched some of a show about Jane Austen. I really need to read Pride and Prejudice again.

Tomorrow I have a few errands but we will be mostly kicking back. I have groceries coming in the morning- big BBQ next weekend and I am ordering now for it. Less to worry about since I have to be at another fund-raiser on Thursday.

Extreme

2009-09-09T17:01:00.000-07:00

Today I attended the educational seminar put on by the hospital about what to expect after surgery. I had no idea that I would need a commode. Or a walker, although that does make sense. It all makes me wish I could put it off for another ten years, but my knees actually ache at night, so it's time.

I told Ervie and Jay that it was on them if I died, because they both encouraged me to follow through with this. It's definitely not a picnic. They don't even want me driving for two months! Oy!

So I am doing my best to get everything organized and ready for the big day- I have to buy a commode and some ice packs. I'm thankful that I grocery shop online! At least I can feel like I've accomplished something.

You know it's going to be bad when just pointing your toe or clenching your buttocks is legitimately considered exercise.

My Work is Done

2009-09-07T14:57:00.000-07:00

Today, while driving to the mall, I asked Spencer what words he would use to describe me. He said smart, intelligent, funny and loving. Then he added beautiful, because we were on our way to the mall.

Anyway, I've been freaking out about the knee replacement- it is downright barbaric what we do to the body- I am having both ends of my bones sawed off, and my kneecap ground down as well. Very disturbing. So I've just agreed with my husband that I had put it off as long as I could, and that I should do it. If I die, I will forever miss my son and regret the decision. However, the odds are in my favor that I will survive and have to endure a painful rehabilitation process. I expect a lot of tears and pain. :/

To give me something to shoot for, I booked us for Christmas week at the Luxor, the day after Jay's cruise. Yes, I am spending money like a mad woman, so I will be working for many more years. Still, a 50th only comes around once and is considered a fairly significant milestone. I expect a diamond necklace for mine! Haha! Jay got some Golden Eagles- 10 bright and shiny coins that cost me almost $13,000. I'm hoping we can sell the others at a profit and retain at least one with the profits- ideally three- one for each of us!

Nicotine Free

2009-09-02T09:35:00.000-07:00

Day 2 of quit smoking yet again. I will be fine but the beginning is always misery- esp. since I am feeling sick anyway. I got all ready for work, went to my car and came back in. There is really no point in struggling if I am so sick. Jay is annoyed because I bother him when I stay home, and he tries to sleep.

I have run all the numbers and we are going to live in 2010 like we don't have my income- if we do that for a year, I can wipe out all anxcillary debts and stay home for good. My friend Tracy wants to start an online baby retail store- I'm game. It doesn't really require much of an investment other than time.

My only worry will be saving money for retirement- which we technically have with the rentals- and paying my student loan. I think I can easily manage to do that and have a better home life with my family. In the end, that is what really matters to me.

A Christmas Carol

2009-08-30T09:42:00.000-07:00

We went to see G-Force last night- Spencer's greatest wish. It was funny and I am glad we listened to him. I finally took Jay to the Grill- I had lobster bisque and Jay had the pork chop with creamed spinach- Spencer had the macaroni and cheese. With the coupon they sent me, we spent $45 with tip- and saved $30!

Anyway, we saw the preview for A Christmas Carol and it looks awesome. I hope that they will be releasing it this year, but they didn't have a date on it. I can't wait to see that. I bought us tickets to the Elves and the Shoemaker and invited Ervie in December.

Since I am going to go ahead with the knee surgery- and oh how that thought terrifies the shit out of me, we've decided to put the cruise on hold and see how I am doing and whether or not it is still available. Also, it depends on our financial situation since I will be taking home about half of what I was- in other words, I expect to be very broke. That didn't stop us from buying ten golden eagles, though- I am hoping to sell them for a profit and keep one for Jay's 50th from the profits. It's a gamble, but we think it's a good one...

A lazy day today, caring for the house and relaxing. I am looking forward to it, although I hope it's not as hot as it was yesterday. It was a relief to get out into the air conditioning. We agreed if it was as hot we would run errands at the mall- a pair of shorts for Spencer at Old Navy, a Hallmark card and a pretzel and some lip gloss at Sephora. I love my bargains!

Letting Go

2009-08-25T20:50:00.000-07:00

I absolutely hate it when I lose something. Tonight I searched everywhere that I could think of for two gift cards- worth a total of about $25. One was $10 for Old Navy and the other was good for two movies, a popcorn and two sodas at Blockbuster. Spencer told me not to worry, that he had plenty of new clothes and likes Netflix better than Blockbuster anyway. He is such a great kiddo.

So I have invited Bill and Carleen and Jan and Nicola over for dinner on the 19th. I am planning the following:

Prawns with cocktail sauce
Crab and chives in pastry shells
Carrots, Cauliflower and ranch dip
Cheese and crackers

BBQ Ribs
Italian Links with sesame rolls

Homemade baked beans
Roasted zuccini and peppers
Garlic toast

Raspberry lemon tart
Brownies

My real cooking will be the beans and the lemon tart. The rest will be easy!

Birthday

2009-08-24T07:23:00.000-07:00

Yesterday we went to Goofy's Kitchen and had breakfast with the characters. I figured I would splurge because Spencer is only little once. He had a fantastic time and really enjoyed it! Of course, he ate like a bird because he was so excited. I'm pretty sure that was the first time he had jello for breakfast, though!

We came home and I cleaned the house and did the laundry and got the groceries ordered. I wanted to start my birthday organized. Jay came home and we watched Weeds, which was funny! Hopefully he will be able to come home to watch it tonight too.

It's good to be home and I'm glad I can start getting things done. I need to make the appointment with the doctor and get that going- and of course we have all the issues with the house to deal with as well. Fun!

I'm hoping we can meet for an early dinner and then I have the groceries delivered after that.

Memories of Disney

2009-08-20T19:29:00.001-07:00

So we spent today at Disney. We didn't do as many rides as I remember as a kid, but of course Jay and I are quite old for the crowds and the heat. We rode the monorail, and the train around the park. We went on the Jungle Cruise, and Indiana Jones. We enjoyed the Tiki Room as always. Spencer and Jay went on the ship Columbia and Spencer went through Tarzan's Treehouse. I promised Spencer we could return to the submarine ride tomorrow- the wait was too long and we were too tired. We had lunch at Cafe Orleans and Jay tried a Monte Cristo for the first time. Spencer collected a bag of polished stones- my love as well back in the day.

I think that we are going to miss California Adventure tomorrow and instead return to Disneyland. I'd rather Spencer have a good solid memory of Disney, like I did.

I've been sad about the passing of the years, and the loss of my Grandmother from so long ago. I've also decided to go forward with the knee surgery, as soon as I can get it scheduled. I'm very frightened, but I need to be able to walk. Dodger Stadium convinced me that I can't do that until I get new knees. I'm sure it will go over like a lead balloon at work.

Dodgers Suck

2009-08-20T19:22:00.000-07:00

So last night we went to see the Dodgers- check another ball park off our list, and so on. I signed up for a deal- parking, tickets, hot dogs, peanuts and soda, along with three tee-shirts. I gave it to Jay as part of his father's day gift.

First of all, we left the Disneyland Hotel at 6pm- it took us two hours to get to the stadium. It took over an hour to travel the last five miles. I don't understand why Dodger fans arrive so LATE to a game! Anyway, it seemed to be in a pretty location- and that was the extent of my admiration for the Dodgers.

Jay got in line to get the dogs and sodas and I volunteered to get the tee shirts. We had already decided that we weren't staying long because we didn't want to wait three hours to go ten miles- those sort of circumstances bring absolutely the worst out in my husband.

I walked the entire length of the dirty stadium- the bathrooms were the worst I have ever seen, by the way. The fans were rude and it was hot. I finally arrived at the store where I was supposed to get them and they said no, you need to go to the other side of the field. I actually thought about crying at that point, but I kept going. Of course, once I got to the store, they only had two shirts- and they neglected to tell me that they were 2XXL- not the size most people want! Ugh!

I swore most of the way back to the car. I made it back to the seats and refused to sit down- Jay took one look at my face and knew I wanted to leave. I had to ice my knees when we got back to the hotel.

I'm selling the damn shirts on Ebay. I hate the Dodgers. Bait and switch sucks.

Departure

2009-08-15T04:58:00.001-07:00

So today we will leave for Vegas, after Jay gets some rest. He's gone pretty much two days with little sleep finishing up the rental house. We turn it over today- after I clean the refrigerator. They are coming at 10 AM. I have to get Cassidy to the kennel and pack the trunk and we are good to go. I gave the neighbors the unopened gallon of milk and fed all the bacon to Cassidy, thanks to the lack of expected visitors.

I'm done with trying to create family connections where apparently none exist. Wendy and Chris couldn't be bothered to find the time for Spencer and Christopher to connect. So in the future, I won't bother either.

Ah well it's Saturday morning bright and early and I have the house cleaned and the bags packed. It's a good life!

Family

2009-08-13T06:30:00.000-07:00

So it's been jacked up with Chris & Wendy visiting, and yesterday it got worse. To begin with, we heard that they were coming to California from Jay's mom. And then on Sunday, I suggested that Jay call Chris since we were expecting them. No, they had already arrived the night before in Modesto, and would be coming down to see us on Tuesday. Ok, no problem. Except then they wanted to come the next day, and take Spencer with them to Santa Cruz- at 11PM at night. I said no, and they said they would come to get him the next morning. They didn't, and I finally called Wendy and told her I was unhappy because my son was disappointed twice. She said it was the drugs that she was on.

So she told me they would call me when they left Santa Cruz- which by the way, she never did. Instead, they called Jay and he waited around until 1pm for them. Good thing I left work early, because they would have only been here ten minutes before they jumped into traffic hell to go eat dinner with Vinnie. Wendy never said a word when I showed her the bed linens, and apparently Jay found out they weren't staying when Chris talked on his cell phone. Half the time I was visiting with Wendy she was on the phone.

So I took all the gifts I was going to give them and gave them to Spencer or put them away. I was very hurt for my son. I even suggested that Christopher spend the night with us, but he didn't want to do that either.

I am done with giving to them- especially plane tickets. We won't be traveling to Oklahoma again unless they get a Major League Baseball team.

Breaking up

2009-08-10T16:41:00.000-07:00

So I was thinking about the situation with my parents today and it reminded me of the relationship I had once with Mark. We dated for three years, but two of those years were tempestous, because I kept trying to break up with him.

Practically all of my years with my parents have been tempestous, and we have been broken the past three years. We broke up before- my mother boycotted my law school graduation, for example- but we always maintained some kind of connection. Now my father doesn't even respond to my emails. Not that I have sent him a billion- but I sent a few key emails that were reconciliatory and they were just...ignored.

So I was talking to a co-worker today and mentioned that I would not be going to my mother's funeral. The jury is still out on Dad. She was worried that I might feel bad that I didn't say a proper goodbye. The way I see it, life rarely allows you a proper good-bye. And as much as I might want answers, the reality is that you don't get them. I feel like I have been in mourning for my parents for three years- and it's time to let go and keep them in the past, where they belong.

School Supplies

2009-08-09T21:47:00.001-07:00

So I found myself spending about $200 this year on school clothes for Spencer- he's very hard on jeans- even the strong ones from Land's End give way eventually. I bought him 5 or 6 new pairs of jeans, about 5 shorts, a couple of shirts, 2 new belts, new tennies, a couple of jackets,pajamas and underclothing, a lunchbox and a backpack. I still have to get his supplies for the school year. One thing I would change is giving parents more notice than a week. I like to shop online!

I haven't felt 100% but I am telling myself I don't have time to be sick and am willing myself to get better. We go on vacation in six days.

Chris and Wendy will not be arriving until Tuesday night. Both Jay and I are a little hurt by the lack of communication and aren't feeling the love. Oh well, we have each other, thank God.

Spencer had a play date with Max and they had a blast. Spencer also wouldn't stop eating today, so I think he's due for a growth spurt. It's like a bottomless pit.

Josh stopped over with Charlie today so I got to meet her. She's beautiful and nice. I think he has done well.

Convergence

2009-08-08T12:25:00.000-07:00

So I guess the stars have aligned, because this coming week is going to be very hectic. I'm going to need the vacation! Tomorrow Spencer has an early morning play date and then Wendy, Chris & Christopher arrive. I have mixers on Tuesday AND Thursday night and I'm working the soccer registration for Rotary as well. We are also turning the rental house over to the tenants and leaving for Vegas on Saturday, so I also have to work in packing the suitcases along the way.

Today I plan to do my home spa mani-pedi and a facial. I have the maids coming to deep clean the house and two books to read. Jay is working at the rental and is coming back for dinner. We are having a gourmet meal of fish, green beans and macaroni & Cheese.

Mafia Wars

2009-08-05T07:16:00.001-07:00

I have to admit that I am getting addicted to playing Mafia Wars on FB. There is nothing like a good list to cross things of off, and I feel like I am doing that finishing job tasks as a thug. Go figure. If only life were that easy.

Yesterday I excused myself from a luncheon, and ran errands. I got my watch fixed, my car washed, my tank filled and picked up two Evan Picone suits on sale. I was a happy camper. Going forward, I have decided to hold one day as my own day for lunch. I need to take more time for myself, especially since I don't get any during the work day.

Wendy, Chris and Christopher are supposed to arrive this Sunday. I have a play date scheduled for Spencer Saturday morning and the cleaner coming in the afternoon. It's been almost two months since I had them in, and it sure is nice to have everything clean and smelling fresh.

I'm ready earlier than usual so I am going to Noah's bagels to get a coffee and bagel for breakfast. It's nice to switch up the routine. I'm having lunch with Liz and Karen today- yay!

No Game

2009-08-02T15:34:00.000-07:00

So Spencer, Ryan, Jay and Jean all went to the Giants game today. I felt bad about missing the scenery, but physically I didn't want to push myself after the last week I've had! Anyway, Jay called me and told me that they were sold out, so the vouchers weren't good. That was almost two hours ago, so I am hoping that they managed to get in somehow!

We have the upcoming Dodger game and that will be fun. Two more busy weeks until vacation. I really need this break for some reason- maybe just the freedom of it all. I still have to arrange for a day care for Cassidy- she is just too much trouble to be left alone.

Great news! We found our renters- they are a family and I hope they will stay there for a while. They are trying to buy a house but it's too hard for them in this market because they have so little down. Boy, we really bought at the right time, I think. And that was just sheer luck and determination.

Jay called and they are back, but they got tickets for another game- one at night. That will be nice, as long as Jay is able to take time off work.

I bought Spencer's birthday gift- ordered a lego city helicopter pad from Amex. Bought his Christmas present too- Nintendo Wii and Mario Kart. I just need to add some stocking stuffers and one more gift from Mom & Dad. I think we are doing the bike next year, unless Jay feels we need to now. That might be something we could buy on Craigslist, even.

This is what it's all about

2009-07-27T21:35:00.000-07:00

At least that is what I feel- the days tick by and time seems to be going faster and faster. I am on a good career path, but some days I am so tempted to throw it all away and become a basket weaver or something of the sort.

Mondays are better because of my BRN- no question. I love that crowd and how close we have grown. It's probably the main reason I hauled myself to work today, back pain be damned.

I keep telling myself that I am 14 work days away from vacation and to just hang on- soon I can relax and enjoy LV and LA with the family.

I am bothered by our debt, but fortunately it looks like we will have a tenant in the rental soon. I am having an open house at 11 on Saturday and have told all the people who have enquired to show up then. You snooze, you lose. The sad part is that I need to take that rental income and pay for a new roof, so it won't immediately help me pay down debt. Still, I am saving the maximum in my 401k and comfort myself with the fact that in five years I can be done with the 9-5 grind and move on to something more mommy-friendly.

Goal

2009-07-26T21:36:00.000-07:00

SO I am shooting for 1000 posts- I'm about 50 or so away- I figure I will hit it by my four year anniversary here on Blogger, which will be in October. Whee!

I took my vicodin and managed to get Spencer's room thoroughly cleaned today, and all the laundry done. It's such a good feeling to start the week with a clean house. I'm drinking the last glass of the Byington Chardonnay from my club membership and planning to watch Weeds in a half hour.

I decided I want to have a party in December for Jay's 50th- now I need to figure out where and what. Meanwhile, I have the Scotch tasting party for 150 to get done by September. I think my friend Selina and her beautiful friend are going to dress up in sexy Scottish lass outfits and sell raffle tickets for me. The men will go nuts, trust me.

We had an awesome time in Livermore with the gang. I ended up splitting a case of peach champagne with Selina- the bottle is gorgeous and it tastes fabulous. I figured it makes a nice hostess gift and is just perfect for summer.

We had a miserable experience at a local restaurant tonight and ended up walking out with our food boxed up. That is the last time we will go there!

Wine Country

2009-07-25T12:46:00.000-07:00

We are leaving in a few minutes to go meet our friends at Wente Winery. Selena & Matt, Jim & Steph, Kathryn, Anton & Sara are all joining us. From there we have about 8 wineries to visit in two miles or so.

My back is really causing me intense pain, so I am on vicodin- won't really be tasting much wine today, darn it! But I have a new sundress and sunglasses so at least I have the fashion down.

Life has been hectic and work has been difficult in terms of people, but great with bringing in the business, which is what it's all about in the end. People resent change and a lot is happening at work. I am doing my best to take the high road, although I certainly falter here and there, no question.

I am knee deep in planning the whiskey tasting for 150 people. Once I pull that off, I can officially call myself a party planner.

Just Another Sunday

2009-07-19T21:26:00.001-07:00

This morning Spencer and I got up to run errands- and we did a great job. We went to Bed Bath and Beyond and bought a new shower curtain and rod for the rental- and then to the laundromat to drop off magazines. After that we went to Kohl's to get Spencer a belt- there was a sale so he got two and was thrilled. I bought him a shirt and a summer cardigan for me. Then it was on to Goodwill to donate several items and buy a few books and another jersey for Spence. We ended it at Noah's Bagels, cashing in on the card we gave Jay, Spencer had a cookie and Jay and I enjoyed bagels.

I still needed to get the drycleaning and gas, but I left that for tomorrow morning. I read a book this afternoon and watched a movie tonight- some serious recharging time is needed these days for the busy week!

I've been neglectful here since I've been having such fun on FB. I started playing Mafia Wars and I'm as competitive as ever.

UP

2009-07-14T06:55:00.001-07:00

We went to see UP last night- $26 at the concession stand for dinner and $15 to get in thanks to my coupon. We saved a bit there, at least.

It was a long day but I felt good about keeping my promise to Spencer. I didn't feel so good when I came home to see that Cassidy had torn a hole in our brand new futon- this is after she ate our futon chair this weekend.

Not sure what to do about her, except get her into an obedience class, and never allow her to be in the home alone. That's tough, because I was so used to trusting my dogs. They did, however, also eat a chair I had.

Usual Stuff

2009-07-12T15:53:00.000-07:00

So last night Jay and I went to a party at a winery and hung out for a couple of hours. It was really nicely done, and probably cost a fortune. I know, because I am planning the whiskey tasting for September.

I just went shopping at Target.com and ordered jeans for Spence, panties for me, sandals for Jay since Cassidy ate his this morning. I also finally upgraded our phone so we will have one in the den again, as well as the living room. I'm still hanging on the one in the bedroom.

Jay is out buying a mirror for our bathroom- boy am I ever sorry I started us down that path! Sheesh! I think the rental will get the medicine chest I like, and maybe we will put our old one out in the garage or something. I could probably hang it in Spencer's room too...

We have a goodwill donation to make and we might take a nap today. I plan on watching at least one movie on Netflix instant view.

Phd

2009-07-11T16:27:00.000-07:00

So tonight we are going to a party at Domenico Winery in San Carlos. One of my customers and also a friend is celebrating his new Phd in computer science. He's an awesome guy and it should be a really fun party. He's also a musician and plays the saxophone- he played at my winery party a month ago.

Spencer did okay with his first production. He smirked a lot when he saw us! It was a pretty excruciating production, but the acting bug seems to have bitten him and I think that's always a positive. Even if he never makes a bajillion dollars as a movie actor, he will have poise and confidence in front of crowds- a skill set many lack.

So we went to see him last night, and after dropping him off we went to a restaurant called Nam. I had the vegetable pho, spring rolls and cafe sua da- iced coffee with condensed milk. We went to Michaels after and I had fun blowing $25 on crap. Today I squeezed in a Trader Joe's visit and blew another $25. I've ordered the Safeway creme brulee to be delivered tomorrow afternoon and today I bought Trader Joe's raspberry creme brulee. We will see which one we like best, after some scientific investigation.

It's fun to be going out with Jay- we haven't done that in a while. I have a new black and white linen wrap dress to wear. I took a nice long bath with scented salts this morning and I'm ready to jump into the shower shortly! Never a dull moment here!

Sacramento Bound

2009-07-03T09:15:00.000-07:00

So we are leaving shortly- as soon as I get the potato salad made, that is- for Sacramento. I booked a room on Hotwire for $120 total, and it's at the Sheraton Grand in Old Town, which sounds like fun. I went there once a long time ago.

Spencer is thrilled because there is a pool and he has cool new swim trunks with a skull on them. The noodle is in the car trunk, and our bags are packed. For once I didn't obsess and pack the night before.

We are headed to the Governor's Mansion first, and then off to the Train Museum. We might return to the train museum again tomorrow to ride the steam train- we will see how it goes today.

Dinner is at the Hard Rock- our purpose for the trip. It's the final Hard Rock that we haven't been to in California, so it's the last easy one. I'm not sure if we are going to Texas or Boston next year, but it will be one of those for us next year.

Carpet is going in on Tuesday, and I am thrilled. It's time for Jay to call it quits and let me rent the house out. We've improved it tremendously. It's gone up $80,000 in value according to Zillow,haha!

La Strada

2009-06-29T07:02:00.000-07:00

I finally saw this very old foreign film, which won Best Foreign Picture back in the day. It was a sad story, and the three characters all nuts. I guess that is pretty much a standard with Fellini films. Touching, but not my type of movie. I'm not really fond of the haunting kind- the ones that stick with you but make you check your watch while viewing.

It's been awfully hot here and we have had the A/C unit on in the bedroom. When I was pregnant with Spencer we bought a portable room air conditioner for $800- and happily, it is still working. It's not perfect, but it makes things bearable. That is a home improvement I would like to get done before we retire- having central air added. Hopefully we will have the money, and it won't necessitate redoing the roof or anything.

Personal History

2009-06-28T07:49:00.000-07:00

I read Personal History by Katherine Graham yesterday. What an amazing family! Her father was practically a robber baron and her story was facisnating. Of course, that necessitated laying about all day, which I completely needed.

It was quite hot yesterday and today promises to be the same. I am turning the air conditioning on. I have to take the dog in for a toenail clipping and I have a large collection of items to give to Goodwill. Other than that I am free to do whatever I wish today. I have a couple of online items to return as well and a few documents to mail out.

Jay has been unhappy- it's all the work he has been doing at the new house. I need to stop pushing, but it's been two months and we are still not done. I'm wary of throwing all this money away, day after day. The good news is that our vacations are paid for, and I have extra money coming in for spending money on vacation. Yay!

Recent Reads

2009-06-25T06:41:00.000-07:00

I've just recently read three good books- Why is My Mother Getting a Tattoo by Jancee Dunn, My Horizontal Life by Chelsea Handler and Such a Pretty Fat by Jen Lancaster. Jen has improved remarkably since her first novel. Jancee returned to the essay format that I think she does best, and Chelsea has balls writing about one night stands, I was impressed.

I have a very busy day- one meeting, two appointments, a lunch and dinner. I will be so glad when the weekend rolls around and I have some time to decompress.

We have the Governor's mansion, the Stanford mansion and the Railroad museum on the list of things to do next Friday. Add the Hard Rock Sacramento, and it's all good. It will be fun to go to a fancy hotel with a pool overnight. It's like a mini staycation!

Spilled Drinks

2009-06-20T15:23:00.000-07:00

In my life, two memorable spilled drinks come to mind- oddly enough, both involving Mark Szycher, my young love after college.

He was very smart, Cornell grad, worked on Wall Street, and was Jewish. In short, everything that I wanted in a man except for the fact that he told me over and over that he would never marry me. After three tumultous years, I finally let go.

Anyway, on one of our very first dates, we went to a little bar in Lambertville or New Hope- one with a lit courtyard, brick floor covered with oriental runners and little lamps on the bar. Character is something I've always loved in design, and this bar had it in spades.

Mark got me a whiskey manhattan and as I nervously toyed with it, I spilled it all over the table. I think I still hadn't slept with him, but I wanted to.

Later, after we had dated for some time, Mark invited me to go see a concert in New York, As I recall, it was cancelled, so we met one of his co-workers for drinks. As Mark tells it, Ernie was so amazed that I was a babe, he spilled his beer all over the bar as he went to greet me. Now that was flattering!

Good times, long gone.

Progress

2009-06-16T06:22:00.000-07:00

So we managed to get down to Home Depot this weekend to order the new carpeting for the bedrooms at our rental. We went for two shades that have a hint of blue and one that has a hint of brown. My preference would have been to have installed wood laminate, but Jay said that the floors would have to be redone before we could put something like that down, so I guess we can do it if we ever decide to live there ourselves.

We also found an awesome medicine cabinet, which Jay is trying to find for us at another store. We plan to install the art deco mirror style in our bathroom and put our old medicine cabinet at the rental.

Spencer has been sick but knock on wood, I have managed to avoid it. Our schedule is just too busy for me to get sick.

Last night Jay came home for lunch so he could watch Weeds with me. We both like the show but think it needs to be an hour long. They just get going and it's over! Kind of like life!

Hot Flashes

2009-06-12T06:47:00.000-07:00

So I have been having bad hot flashes at work, and last night I woke up soaked. This isn't so fun. One of the guys at work thought he was teasing me when he asked me if I was having a hot flash. He turned red when I said yes, it was quite funny.

So my manager suggested black cohosh and she gave me a bottle. I took my first pill today.

I have to leave work at 3 today for a mammogram. I am not looking forward to that. I think we are going to the movies after. I also need some new music to listen too, so it's not TGIF- especially since I get to work from 8-1 tomorrow. I will be missing the Ducky Derby at Great America.

Success

2009-06-07T15:49:00.000-07:00

It didn't rain and was a nice day. The wine was much better that I remembered, and the figs were a nice touch on the cheese tray. I bought all of the shortbread crackers there which added a nice touch as well. Mostly people sat, noshed, talked and enjoyed the music. I think it was a great party! Lots of thanks today! And only a minor hangover!

Ballparks to Visit

2009-06-07T15:48:00.000-07:00

Here are the ballparks that we still want to visit:
Arizona
Atlanta
Baltimore
Washington DC
Boston
White Sox
Cinncinati
Cleveland
Colorado
Texas Rangers
Houston Astros
Kansas City
Milwaukee
Tigers
Minnesota

Me- Mets
Jay- Phillies

Six Pounds

2009-06-03T07:12:00.001-07:00

I am six pounds lighter from the last two weeks, and intend to continue that trend! I have five size 12 outfits and it would be nice to be wearing them again in the fall!

For the most part, I like my fake tan and would go back again for another airbrushing. I now know I need to moisturize my elbows every day!

Only one appoitnment today so I'm having lunch with KD at Krung Thai! I always enjoy the tiime I spend with her!

The Gambler

2009-06-02T18:29:00.001-07:00

I took a chance a year ago when I left WF in a rush, eager to escape the idiot that I reported to. That gamble has paid off in spades. I'm so grateful both emotionally and financially that I left! WHOO HOO!

Life is very good, although Jay is still slugging it out in the rental. We have our party at the winery this week so I am looking forward to that. Friday night Spencer has his pack BBQ and advances to a Bear cub. It's so cute!

Thursday night I have a networking party at a law firm, so I'm busy 3 nights in a row. I was hoping we would get to see Star Trek, but I don't think we will be able to for about two more weeks! Ugh!

Pecan Rolls & Dolphins

2009-05-31T08:25:00.000-07:00

I am hoping to get the gumption to make the pecan rolls that I planned on making forever ago. I don't have corn syrup but I am just going to use pancake syrup instead. Should work!

I got up this morning and booked Spencer for a Kid's Quest so he can play with the dolphins at the resort in Hawaii. There is a better program with a picnic that sounds fun, so if he has a blast at the first one I might book him for the other one, too. It's $200 a pop~ thank goodness I work hard all year!

Looking forward to getting this house wrapped up and start the fun rental process. I am hoping we can get someone in by July 1. I've been thinking hard and I think I am going to put off the knee replacement for another year or so- I want to see where this economy is heading before I leave my job and put it at risk. I'll just deal! And when others tell me to get an operation, I will tell them it's my knee and my decision to make.

We had a great time at a friend's BBQ- filet and roasted corn on the cob, killer proscuitto with melon as well. I bought creme brulees at a local bakery that were to die for. Also used my last massage package and got a dark spray on tan. Forgot to moisturize my elbows so they are very dark! Whoopsie!

Into the Stretch

2009-05-26T07:19:00.001-07:00

We are now entering my long work period before the next vacation- we don't go on vacation until August 17, so I have 64 work days in a row, minus weekends, of course!

I ended up taking advantage of Disney's offer, so we are spending all of our vacation (5 nights) at the Disneyland Hotel. We have a two day pass to the Parks, so we are going to also visit La Brea Tar Pits, The Getty, Santa Monica and Pink's Hot Dogs. There is so much to do in the Greater LA area that we will not really miss San Diego. I figured I saved us about $350 and got us an extra night, so it made economic sense.

Weekend trips I would like to do include the new Academy of Sciences, the De Young and a KOA Kamping Kabin, maybe up in Petaluma. Fun stuff- and going to SF is always a good thing when the temperatures get high here in the Valley!

Wine Country

2009-05-23T16:39:00.000-07:00

I was thinking back today to a time when Jay and I had just met, and went up to Napa together. I still have a picture of him at the Mondavi winery, looking gorgeous as ever.

He hadn't told me at that point that he had the boys every weekend, so he snuck away with me and left the boys with his mom. After we arrived and saw that we had three beds, I suggested we call his mom and brother and convince them to drive up to enjoy wine country with us. Unfortunately, they were babysitting!

We are having friends over again tonight for a BBQ- using what I didn't cook last weekend. Appies are monterey jack cheese, crackers and pepper jack cheese, smoked almonds, pickles and baby carrots with dip. Dinner is hot links with sauteed peppers and onions, macaroni and cheese, beans with bacon and a spinach, tomato and avocado salad, along with fries and onion rings. Dessert is a coconut cake or brownies. I had a piece of the coconut cake earlier and it rocked.

Drinks are Cherry Blossom Slings, Leal Chardonnay, Newcastle Brown Ale or a rose wine that was a gift! Should be fun!

Slight Exaggeration

2009-05-19T20:31:00.000-07:00

So this weekend I told a friend that I had almost 2000 posts on a blog. Make that almost 1000. It only feels like I've posted twice as much as I thought in the last five years.

This gal I know told me she could tell that I was fatter because of how I held myself and that I didn't have to tell her I was smoking again because she could hear it in my voice. Jay got so outraged when I told him. It really isn't surprising that she doesn't have friends. Who wants that kind of honesty, really? Not anyone I know. Diplomacy is a skill that she does not have.

It was a good day despite all our problems. The contractor isn't calling Jay back, we sent off the dispute to the IRS, I got some paperwork to move the accounts in to the Trust, we left Spencer's backpack on the campus tonight, we survived open house, no new spots on my legs so the disease isn't bad, etc. You get the free conscious flow of fate here for free my friends! Seriously, it's almost so bad you have to laugh! We will get through this just fine because we have each other and are grateful for that every day!